My playbook
Based on your answers, here's your path.
We've grouped your steps into four stages. Tackle them roughly in this order — but you can jump around. Tap a step to see exactly what to do.
Protect yourself
Safety first — these come before everything else.
What
Ask the family court for an order that stops your ex from threatening, harassing or contacting you.
How
Complete form FL401 and a supporting witness statement (FL401T). You can apply without telling your ex first (a 'without notice' application) if you are at risk.
Timing
Apply as soon as you safely can. A judge can usually decide within a few days.
What tends to go wrong
Write your statement in clear date order. Vague phrases like 'always' or 'often' weaken your case — use specific incidents with dates.
Sort out children
Arrangements for any children under 18.
Sort out finances
Money, property, pensions and court fees.
The divorce itself
The legal steps that end the marriage.
This is general guidance, not legal advice. If in doubt, get independent legal advice.